Yes, it is true. Dutch speakers have developed a playful, informal set of terms for different stages of friends with benefits, moving from very casual to more serious. These terms are not official or used in formal settings, but they are widely recognized in everyday conversation, especially among younger people.

The six stages you listed are a popular modern list, but the exact number and order can vary by region or social group. Here is a common breakdown:

  • Twarrel: The most casual level, often a one night stand or very short fling with no expectations.
  • Scharrel: A slightly more regular partner, but still very non-committal. This is probably the most common term for a casual hookup.
  • Kwarrel: A step up from scharrel, implying more regular contact and some emotional connection, but still not a relationship.
  • Eventuela: A playful term for someone you see occasionally at events or parties, with no plans beyond that.
  • Prela: Short for "pre-relatie" (pre-relationship). This is when things are getting more serious and you are essentially dating, but without the official label.
  • Rela: Short for "relatie" (relationship). This is the final stage, meaning you are now in a committed, official relationship.

The tradeoff is that these terms are very informal and can be used differently by different people. Some might skip stages, use them jokingly, or have their own local variations. They are not a strict system, but a fun way to describe the gray area between hookup and relationship.

If you want to understand or use these terms, the best next step is to listen to how Dutch friends or media use them in context. You will hear them in Dutch TV shows, movies, or social media posts about dating. Do not use them in formal or professional settings, as they are very casual. If you are learning Dutch, it can be helpful to know these terms to understand jokes or conversations, but focus on more standard vocabulary for serious communication.

In short, these stages are a real part of Dutch slang, but treat them as a cultural curiosity rather than a strict guide. They reflect a relaxed, direct attitude to dating in the Netherlands.